Why Married People Are Happier

According to Daniel Gilbert, PhD, best-selling author and Harvard psychology researcher , he said than when he was growing up, his mom urged him to aspire for three things in life — finding someone nice and getting married; building a fulfilling, well-paid career; and above all, having children.
This is because of the fact that married people are better off than single or divorced people. The better the marriage, the stronger the “marriage effect” on physical and mental health, longevity and prosperity.

Some years ago, Horold Morowitz of Yale observed that divorce is as hazardous to a man’s health as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day. The thing applies to women folks. Studies have shown that unmarried women are 50 percent more likely to die in any year than are married women and unmarried men are five times likely to die in any given year than married men at any age.

Being unmarried can shorten a man’s life by ten full years. Marriage is a major public issue, because its absence shortens people’s lives. it likely unmarried people are sick more often, stay longer in the hospital than married people with similar problems, and are two and half times more likely to end in a nursing home.

Again, unmarried people are even several times more likely to get common cold than are married people. That becomes possible because unhappiness weakens the immune system. Scientists have shown that these health advantages are not merely accidental. Studies constantly show that marriage itself improves people’s health. Sick people who are married got healthier faster.

Therefore, it would not be wrong to say that married people are happier than unmarried ones. Perhaps because the single best predictor of human happiness is the quality of social relationships. “Marriage seems to buy you a decade or more of happiness,” said Gilbert.

And people in unhappy marriages experience a spike in happiness once the marriage is dissolved, Gilbert continued. Using a sampling application that contacts people via their iPhone, one of Gilbert’s graduate students has found that people are happiest when they’re having sex and talking, or otherwise investing in social relationships. Resting and relaxing don’t just bring happiness because when you’re not engaged in a task — even if is an unpleasant one — your mind wanders, and you may likely ruminate on unhappy experiences.

According to Marsha Lucas, Ph.D., a psychologist in Washington, D.C, happiness in a marriage might not always seem as exciting as when you first meet your wife.  Th is because, as research proves, many people have a baseline level of happiness they tend to return to after a positive life event.

“During early romance, we’re getting all kinds of great, pleasurable experiences that are giving us a bit of a hit of dopamine, stimulating the brain areas involved with reward—even euphoria—as well as the motivation to seek out and return over and over to that same source to get some more,” she says. “After you’re married and the thrill has settled, those big, constant hits of dopa-mine taper off, and like coming down from a high, it can feel like a huge letdown.”


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