Signs Your Wife Is Cheating on You

Signs Your Wife Is Cheating on You

Faithfulness is a desirable feature of any relationship. But sometimes, infidelity irresistibly creeps into relationships. If something about your wife's recent behavior gives you course for suspicions and your instincts tells you that there might be another guy in her life, you should do a little investigating first to verify that your suspicions are correct before confronting her about it. The following are a few of the most common signs that could be indicative of a cheating wife.

Sign 1: Changes in Her Social Patterns

Observe the changes in the way she treats people who care about you. When your wife begins to distance herself from your side of the family or from friends of yours whom she once got along with, it could signify a sign of guilt. If your wife gets along with your family and friends, she will understand that more people will be hurt by the affair than just you. This will make her feel guiltier, so she might avoid the situation as often as possible. Cheating wives can also be worried that your friends and family will be able to tell that something is happening even if you do not pick up on the clues.

Take note of how often she goes out with "the girls." Once she suddenly starts spending considerably more time running with social circles that don't include you, this could be another sign  sign she is cheating on you. Even though she may claim to be hanging out with her female friends, this might not actually be the case. Beware that an occasional girls-night-out can be both normal and healthy, so you do not need to worry if these nights are fairly infrequent. This becomes a major concern if your wife puts these nights above her relationship with you, if her story changes about who she goes with and where she goes, or if you are unable to get in touch with your wife while she's out.  Even if your wife is genuinely meeting with other female friends, there is some chance that she is using them as emotional support and confiding to them about personal issues she may not talk to you about. This might not be a sign that she's cheating, but it is a sign that there are problems in your marriage.

Listen carefully if she starts talking about a new friend. Women generally feel a stronger need to talk about new and exciting things happening in their lives, even if they need to keep the news a secret. If she starts talking about a new friend, that new friend might be more to her than she intends to let on.  Keep in mind that your wife might give you a fake name to throw you off. If she talks a lot about her new friend "Samantha," she might actually be describing her new friend "Samuel," and providing you with a woman's name just to avoid raising your suspicions.

Determine if there are any changes in her drinking or smoking habits. If your wife frequently drank or smoke, then you might not notice much of any change. If she never had any interest in alcohol and cigarettes before, however, and suddenly begins smelling of either one, she might have a partner in crime who taught her those new habits. Even if your wife does indulge in the occasional drink, pay attention to when you smell alcohol on her. If you smell it after she came back from what should have been a late night at the office, or smell it on her at odd times like the middle of the afternoon, there could be a problem.

5.  Pay attention to how often she works or goes on business trips. Your wife might claim to be spending more time at work, but if she was never much of a workaholic before, this change could indicate that she's spending those extra hours outside of the office after all. Any excessive amount of time she spends away could be bad newmanifest whexample, if a trip to the bank, grocery store, or hair salon takes twice as long as it used to, she might be doing something other than what she claims to be doing.

Look at how much money she spends when she is out. Take a discreet peek at your wife's receipts and credit card statements. A dramatic increase in the amount of money she spends could suggest that she's been spending her money on someone new. To the same end, consider checking her car mileage. If you notice that she is driving more miles than she should if she were going to the places she claims to be going to, then she might be driving out to see someone she should not be seeing.

Sign 2: Changes in Her Behavior at Home

One of the changes that easily manifest when your wife start to cheat on you is her behavior towards you.  Watch for a change in her affections toward you. You need to get worried when your wife suddenly distances herself from you, and if she suddenly becomes inexplicably more affectionate toward you, that could be just as bad a sign. A cheating wife can begin to pay more attention to you as a way to ease her guilty conscience. If she devotes more attention to you when the two of you are together, it can momentarily make her feel better about what she does when you aren't around.

Pay attention to her phone habits. This can be a bit tricky, since many women naturally spend a lot of time on the phone. When your wife suddenly spends more time talking or texting, and if she hangs up as soon as you enter the room, these habits could suggest that she's talking to someone new in her life whom she does not want you to know about.

You cantryy asking her about the phone calls she receives, especially if she leaves the room to take them or quickly hangs up when you walk in. AscertainYouether or not her response seems truthful or if she is trying to make an excuse for who was on the other end of the line. You should also pay attention to other changes in her calling habits, taking note of the frequency of calls, time of day, and tone of voice she uses.

When your wife suddenly starts seeing nothing good in what you do, it is a sign of problems in your relationship, even when is not cheating on you. On the other hand, it could also be a bad sign if your wife "nags" at you less. If you have given your wife good reason to stop nagging by improving the traits she often criticized you for or by being more attentive, less nagging can be great. If you have not changed your behavior, though, and she becomes less critical of you, it could be a sign that she has become indifferent toward you, which could mean that she's getting emotional fulfillment from another source.

Also, consider any changes in her sexual behavior. You might expect your wife to show less interest in you sexually if she starts cheating on you. While this can be the case in some instances, just as often, wives will seem more interested in sex than before. Wanting more sex can be your wife's way of alleviating the guilt she has for cheating on you. In some cases where your wife wants more sex, it could also be a sign that she is having an emotional affair and using you to satisfy her sexual desire for a man she cannot have in bed. On the other hand, if you had a healthy enough sex life before and the flames suddenly die out between you, it could indicate that she is fulfilling her sexual desires with someone else.

Another way to know if your wife is cheating on you is by eye contact. On instinct, humans avoid eye contact with others when they feel guilty or when they have a secret to hide. Try to make eye contact with your wife regulary. If she is cheating, there is a good chance that she will turn away more often than not. This is especially important when you ask her about where she has been, who she's been with, and what she has been doing. Since she will need to come right out and lie to you if she does not want to admit to cheating, she will find it much harder to look you in the eye than she normally would. Note how much time she spends on the computer. Nowadays, the computer is used as a means of communication just as often as the phone is. If your wife spends more of her evenings on the computer and becomes defensive when you ask about it, she might be sending emails or communicating via social media with someone she hopes you won't find out about. You can also peep into your wife's Internet history when she is not around to see. If her history has been erased, consider that to be red flag and a sign that there was something there she did not want you to see.

Consider evasive behavior as a bad sign. As a general rule, if your wife suddenly begins sharing fewer details about her day and her thoughts, she might be hiding something or getting the emotional support she needs from another source. Women are rarely secretive unless they have a good reason to be. They are generally more inclined to open up about their thoughts and feelings than men are, and while husbands may hold back in an effort to avoid what they perceive as "nagging," wives rarely demonstrate the same behavior.

Sign 3: Changes in Her Grooming Habits

Note a change in her appearance. The longer a couple stays married, the more both spouses tend to let themselves go. If your wife suddenly dyes her hair and spruces herself up, she might be trying to make herself look good for someone new. Women usually try to look their possible bests at the start of a new relationship, so if your wife is suddenly making considerably more effort in terms of her appearance, it stands to reason that there might be a new relationship in her life. However, note that there are chances that she could be doing this for your benefit. If she notices lack of intimacy between the two of you and wants to remedy the problem, she might try to make herself seem more appealing to you.

Check out her shopping recent activities. Take a good look at what she brings home in her shopping bags. If she buys new clothes in excess, she might be trying to show them off to someone—especially if those clothes are revealing or if she buys more lingerie. A big sign can be if your wife is buying sexy lingerie but not wearing them in your bedroom, or if she is buying attractive clothes but never wearing them in front of you.

Pay attention if she starts working out at the gym. If your wife takes a sudden interest in shaping up even though she never showed much desire to do so before, she might be trying to make her body look more appealing to a new guy in her life. Understand, of course, that this is not necessarily a dead giveaway. She might genuinely be trying to get herself in shape for valid reasons, especially if her doctor has recently informed her about possible health risks, if a favorite dress no longer fits, or if the new year just started and working out is on her list of resolutions. Take note of how often she showers "at the gym." If you rarely see her shower at home anymore and she frequently claims to have showered at the gym, there is some chance that she might be showering at another guy's place and using the gym shower as a cover. A cheating wife will often shower before she greets you at home to cover the scent of the other man.

Lastly, inhale her scent. Most spouses get accustomed to the way their counterparts smell. If your wife smells “off” or like a brand of men's cologne you do not use, she might be in close contact with another man*Do not accuse your wife of having an affair without confirming your suspicions first. If your wife is not cheating on you and you accuse her of doing so, you might end up causing problems between the two of you that never existed before.
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The 3Ps of Marriage

The 3Ps of Marriage

Just as in marketing where we have 4Ps, so it is also in marriage. There are 3Ps of marriage which if well observed will enhance peace and harmony in the relationship between couples. Marriage as an institution brings two different individuals together. The togetherness of these individuals can only be possible if effective communication skills are built. That is where 3Ps of marriage comes into play. 

The 3Ps of marriage is like a model that should be keenly acknowledged to foster quality relationship and understanding among couples. It will always bridge the communication gap that might be occasioned by its absence. Communication remains an effective tool to grow intimacy. Now, what are those 3Ps of marriage all about? They are all centered on activities that can help understanding and intimacy. They are: plan together, play together, and pray together. Now, let us take time to elaborate on each of them.

Plan together: Planning is one activity that often comes up in the life of everybody. People often have needs to plan their career, retirement, vacation, meetings, and so on. The same thing is applicable in marriage. Couples also do have such needs. Since marriage makes two separate entities to become one, there is need for them to always recognize themselves as one and plan together. Husbands must have to carry their wives along when undertaking any planning, wives should respond as well. Any family that plans together enjoys the feeling of sense of belonging. But when husbands and wives plan separately, one of them feels shortchanged or sidelined. For perfect peace and harmony to reign at home, couples must see themselves as inseparable entities and plan together.

Play together: All works and no play make Jack a dull boy says a popular adage. Couples should pinpoint their areas of common interest in social activities so as to convert them to veritable ground for their stronger relationship. Watching TV together can spice up a relationship. Exercise can also be a good option. It is ideal that husbands and wives should carve out time from their busy schedules to have fun with each other. They should identify those things they have in common and spend time together on such activities. Most of couples prefer playing with their friends, inasmuch as it is not bad, they should also try spending quality time with their partners during their leisure time.

Pray together: there is this popular saying that a family that prays together stays together. I have really thought on this and discovered that it is a true talk. Prayer is a medium through which we communicate the desires of our heart to God. When families pray together, they communicate their desires to God in unity. Pray builds a spiritual bond between couples. And since it is true that the spiritual controls the physical, the bond holds together their physical relationship. Also, a family that develops the culture of praying together on daily basis will always resolve any minor problem that arises among them before it metamorphoses to more serious one. This is true because it will become impossible for them to pray together when there are grudges between them. The resultant effect will be to immediately resolve their differences. We therefore encourage husbands and wives, and families in general to develop the culture of praying together on daily basis.

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